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The friendship audit — the most confronting list you'll ever make.

The friendship audit — the most confronting list you'll ever make.

Somewhere in most of my coaching sessions, we get to the friendship list. Not every time. But often enough that I now bring it up directly.

Make a list of the twenty people you interact with most. Next to each name, write one word. Adds or drains. Not good or bad. Just the energy exchange.

What most women discover: the list is not what they expected. The person they thought was their closest friend is consistently draining. The colleague they thought was difficult is surprisingly energising.

This doesn't mean you cut everyone who drains you. Some relationships you maintain by choice, by love, by circumstance. But you maintain them as a choice, not a default. That distinction changes everything.

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The Friendship Audit: The Most Confronting List You'll Make — Anna Lou Wellness