You can usually see it before anyone puts words to it. The person who used to drive every meeting has gone quiet. Your steadiest operator is suddenly making small, uncharacteristic mistakes. Someone is at their desk every single day and somehow unreachable. Replies get shorter. The room feels tighter. People are working harder than they ever have, and somehow less is actually moving. It is tempting to read this as a performance problem, or an attitude problem, or someone who has quietly checked out. Most of the time it is none of those things. What you are looking at is a team of dysregulated nervous systems that have been running in overdrive for too long. And once that has been true for long enough, it stops being a private, internal experience and starts showing up in the work.
Dysregulation rarely announces itself. It hides inside behaviour you would otherwise file under character or capability. Once you know what you are looking at, you start to see it everywhere. It tends to show up in three broad ways. The wired ones (fight or flight). Short fuse, defensiveness, conflict flaring over small things, a constant sense of urgency, an inability to switch off, a hypervigilance that is exhausting to be around. These are often your hardest workers, which is exactly why it gets missed.
The shut-down ones (freeze). Withdrawal, going quiet, procrastination, decisions that stall, the person who is physically present and genuinely unreachable. Easy to read as disengagement. It is usually the opposite: a system so overloaded it has gone offline in order to cope.
The over-functioning ones (fawn). The people-pleasers who cannot say no, who absorb everyone else's load, who perform calm beautifully and look the most fine of anyone in the building, right up until the morning they hand in their notice. And cutting across all three, the quieter tells: concentration drops and small mistakes climb, sick days creep up, sleep suffers and shows itself as lateness and low energy, and communication frays so that people read tone wrong and assume the worst over a two-line email. None of it is a flaw in your people. It is a nervous system doing exactly what it is built to do under sustained pressure. The only real problem is that nobody has given them the language or the tools to do anything about it.
I have run this work in boardrooms, on corporate wellbeing days and in village halls, for companies whose names you would know. The one thing that is true in every room, without a single exception, is that the need is the same. It does not matter where someone sits. Naming that out loud is usually the most quietly reassuring thing anyone hears all day, because almost everyone arrives privately convinced it is just them. What the work does is give a team a shared language for something that was already happening but had no name. The moment people can recognise dysregulation in themselves, regulate on purpose, and read the state of the person across the table, the whole dynamic shifts.
Meetings get more productive, because people are present instead of braced. Decisions improve, because they are made from a regulated place rather than a reactive one. Conflict softens, not because anyone has learned to suppress it, but because the states driving it have genuinely changed. People stop performing calm and start actually feeling it. And the gap between those two things, as anyone who has done the performing will tell you, is enormous.
This matters even more when a team is recovering. After a brutal year, a loss, a restructure or a long stretch of relentless pressure, people do not simply reset because the calendar says the hard part is over. Regulation is something a nervous system relearns in its own time, and it does it far better with language, support and permission than without. Giving your people that is not a soft perk. It is one of the most practical decisions a leader can make for the quality of the work itself.
I bring this into teams as a bespoke half day or full day, built around what your people are genuinely carrying rather than a fixed curriculum. Some teams need the science made simple. Some need the felt experience of a regulated state, so they can find their way back to it under pressure. Most need a little of both. If you have a team you can already feel running in overdrive, I would love to talk about what this could look like for them.
And if you have read this far recognising not your team but yourself, the one quietly running on empty: you are allowed to send it upward. Sometimes the most regulating thing you can do is let someone with the budget understand what is actually going on. Anna x
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